Celebrating Valentine’s Day in Damascus:
For Syrians, who like other nations aren’t safe from the hands of commercialism, the rituals of valentine start a month before Feb the 14th
By Hamzeh Abu-Fakher
Staff Writer, Forward Magazine
It’s February and stores, restaurants and cafes are tearing down what’s left of their Christmas decorations and adorning their spaces in this month’s highlight festivity, symbols that suggest displays of love and affection for Valentine’s Day. Red ribbons, red hearts, cupids and flashing red lights alarm lovers Valentine’s Day is drawing nigh.
In Damascus, those embarrassing soft toy hearts with smiley faces, arms and legs, ceramic hearts on springs and even steaks wrapped in ribbon and festooned in hearts are excused. Thinking about all this, people may wonder: What is Valentine?
Everybody knows it’s “Lover’s Day” named after the martyr Saint Valentine; but what significance does it hold? It can’t be actually categorized as a holiday, you still go to work on that day, yet people and businesses prepare weeks in advance for it, just forgetting it the next day.
Valentine’s Day means different things for different couples. For some it means candlelit dinners, long-stemmed roses and flower-scented bubble baths in heart-shaped Jacuzzis in countryside bed and breakfast hotels. For others it’s an excuse to drop thousands of liras at a restaurant you’ve both been dying to try all year but haven’t found the room for in your budget. Fanciful or practical, whether you subscribe to the ”Valentine’s Day is an invented holiday” school of thought or not, this special day is a chance to celebrate your relationship – old or young, long term or just getting started.
The 14th day of the second month marks a day in which lovers forget their disputes and shower each other with gifts; flowers, valentine cards, teddy bears, and sweets. Not preparing in advance for this occasion is blasphemous, especially if you are a guy! Many women consider Valentines a test of their partners love and commitment.
Valentines is the only day of the year when all couples are required to be happy in love. For singles however, the day and night can be rather depressing, but nothing a soppy DVD and tub of ice cream and crisps can’t fix. Although, statistics show that teen suicide rates hike around Valentine’s Day!
Commercially, after Christmas and New Year, Valentine is the next most profitable holiday globally. Handwritten love notes have been replaced with mass produced greeting cards, and in the USA, the Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately one billion Valentine greeting cards are sent each year worldwide. Not forgetting credit cards bills, which are the new means of expressing love. The fatter the bill, the hotter the night’s reward.
For Syrians, who also aren’t safe from the hands of commercialism, the rituals of valentine start a month before Feb the 14th. Guys start calling their friends to ask for money; No “man” wants to be caught penniless in front of their girl friends on Valentine’s. Restaurants start preparations with decorations and special offers “For Families Only,” “No single men allowed.” 50 liras red roses magically gain an extra zero, turning to 500 liras. And finally, cell phone companies start spamming their customers with bulk messages, such as: “Send a message to #### with your partner’s name to join the ‘Lover’s Day competition’ or to ‘test your compatibility.’”
Perhaps being in love does improve the economy! Some say that “Love makes the World go around,” while others say “Money makes the World go around,” using simple mathematical logic, love = money!
Like with all special occasions, I think Valentine’s Day has lost some of its enchantment because it has been abused by those considering it a commercial opportunity. However, this day, if handled correctly and planned well, could prove to be an incredibly romantic day allowing you a chance to treat your significant other, and demonstrate how much you love her/him.
A home cooked dinner lit by candles, scents of aromatics and a massage could prove to be the sweetest and most romantic gift a lover could offer. No need to go buy all the red scrap that replaced the New Year’s and X-mass’ junk. Valentine is a special day for a couple to celebrate their love, alone, not with the whole world in restaurants like some love concentration camp.
It all depends on how you view it, you can either think that a rose is a dead flower, or a symbol of undying love. The same way this day could either be another commercialized occasion, or a romantic opportunity for lovebirds to get together and exchange words and actions about how they feel for one another. And in the end, if couples are happy together, everyday can be Valentine’s Day, while Valentine could be an even more extraordinary day.
Fun fact: In Saudi Arabia, in 2002 and 2008, religious police banned the sale of all Valentine’s Day items, telling shop workers to remove any red items, as the day is considered a non-Islamic holiday. In 2008, this ban created a black market of roses and wrapping paper.
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Bush & the “Good Ol’ Iraqi Shoe!”
The Iraqi reporter who hurled a show at president Bush a couple of days ago reminded me of a political satire released by Hollywood back in 1997 – one of my most favorite movies.
Dubbed “Wag the Dog,” the movie starred Dustin Hoffman (a creative Hollywood director and special effects specialist) and Robert De Niro (playing the role of a shrewd media spin doctor and save-the-day type of PR consultant to the American president).
The movie starts with this fictional president getting himself involved with a Monica Lewinsky kind of scandal. De Niro is summoned in by the media department at the White House-slash-CIA since he’s the only one who can come up with a media and PR plan to cover up the presidential PR disaster.
De Niro & Hoffman decide it was time to fabricate a War in some country God knows where to remove the American citizens’ attention from the Monica the President was sleeping with, and indulge them in the excitement of “freeing” a suppressed nation somewhere Russia-like.
The spin doctors come up with all kinds of news items from the battlefield of the non-existent war, all manufactured and fabricated within the Blue Rooms of Hollywood and its studios. They even bring back 303 empty coffins of non-existent soldiers who have “died in honor of their country” and the President (whose wise leadership is hailed by all American news agencies taking the bate) attends their most heart wrenching funeral.
The empty contents of the coffins were no secret to the public, De Niro worked around this little detail by creating a yet more interesting PR cover up: Media anchors around the country informed the American viewers that the soldiers were torched in “that” country by barbaric so-called freedom fighters. The poor 303 soldiers were attempting to defend the liberty of “that” nation, they all came back in coffins except for that one missing soldier who left his brown shoe behind! (The last time I watched the movie was 3 years ago, my imagination might be playing around with the plot, so take this with a pinch of salt).
Shoes, patriotism and symbolism…
De Niro’s character succeeds in making brown shoes resemble freedom, the American self-righteous quest for saving other nations from themselves, the American dream/individual lost in some barbaric wasteland! To engage the American people with the patriotic sentiments this pseudo war was all about, Di Nero ventures into historical fabrication in order to make things look and feel more believable.
He commissions a singer who lost his glory back in the 70’s to create a song called “Good Ol’ Shoe.” The song is processed by a brilliant sound engineer who makes it sound scratchy and very Vinyl. The song is actually packed into some old, dusty cover, is given a serial number and is planted in the Congress music library. By “mere chance” some reporter finds the song, people start listening to it – and if they were flower children they could vaguely “remember” hearing that glorified ballad in their youth.
According to this link: The team’s appointed songwriter, Johnny Green (Willie Nelson), pens a song for the occasion strongly reminiscent of the Persian Gulf War’s “Voices That Care” or the 1980s anthem “We Are the World.”
And the [spin-doctoring] group’s plan to encourage Americans to throw their shoes into trees in support of a missing soldier nicknamed “The Old Shoe” mirrors the trend of tying on yellow ribbons in support of war efforts.
After a long musical break the singer revives his oldie, this time with a song called “Old Brown Shoe.” (Again, remember I am unearthing most of this from memory).
Bush & the Good Ol’ Iraqi Shoe
A brilliant opportunity awaits Arab political satire songwriters. Yesterday on news in some demonstration in Iraq a guy was holding a shoe on a stick.
Good old brown shoes have in deed become a symbol, but this time they are in favor of “that” nation that Americans have conquered. Brown shoes have become a symbol of buried boiling rage at the American atrocities committed in the name of freedom. Isn’t it all too ironic. Sometimes one suspects Hollywood producers go to fortune tellers and like to shed some satirical light on the future.
P.S. I’m wearing brown shoes today.
* Why does a dog wag its tail? Because the dog is smarter than the tail. If the tail was smarter, it would wag the dog.
Writer: Ruba Saqr (inspired by conversation with Ammar Haykal last evening).
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